Thanksgiving 2020

Awwww family!

It’s Thanksgiving. I’m forever thankful for each one of you—my beautiful children, and yours. It’s so strange not to gather in the same time and space with you. It’s so unnatural to be away from you. It’s not the way we planned it.

We’ll be sharing thanks, though—thanks that through it all, in God’s providence we will be together again, that hope will be realized, thanks that we have a warm place to lay our heads and plenty of food to satisfy, that we have ways to connect unknown to those from whom we came, memories of their sweet legacies, that we have music and dance, that we have forgiveness of hurts and reunion of hearts,  that we have clean water to quench our thirst and warm water to wash our bodies and dishes and clean our clothes, that we have clothing for work, for play, for sleep, for celebration, for beauty and comfort, that we have ways to get places—cars and trains and planes and our own two legs, That we have not only sustenance—but a feast before us, with dessert, too. That we have “easy” ways to keep and cook the bounty of the harvest, that we have art and beauty and song to salve the distance between, that we have health and strength for another day, that your Dad and I have children who love us, and that we have children we love more, and that we have grandchildren who delight our days and bring a million smiles, thankful and deeply  humbled that we’re “safe” in this moment from the ravages of a pandemic that’s shattered the lives of more than we can number, thankful a vaccine is coming, thankful that we have a generous God who loves us all as the “apple of his eye” and forever, no matter what, holds us in His heart.

We’re thankful for those you’ve brought into our lives. From childhood onward, you brought friends into our lives who became ours, too, who we love. You’ve made our world bigger—and smaller. You’ve brought us close to many, reminding us that we are “one.” Thank YOU. YOU are God’s promise that the world should go on. 

How I miss hugging you, feeling skin touching skin! How I miss hearing your laughter, wiping your tears, sitting together in silence, seeing you bound up the walk and throw open the door, How I miss smelling the fragrance of your hair, looking into your eyes and touching your soul as you touch mine, how I miss cooking and creating in the kitchen, feasting at the table, swapping stories, and savoring time together. I'm "homesick" for you, even as we  shelter in "at home" so we can be together again. And so much more..... 

Wow! Yes WOW! I’m teary-eyed just thinking about it. Yet I’m thankful,  so very thankful for the privilege of missing you—the privilege of holding precious memories that evoke the longing to be together again—that we have hope of Thanksgiving to come, That we are bound by love. That you love each other—the best gift you’ve ever given your Dad and me.

Now, be safe—and have FUN! 

Zooming soon—and Happy Thanksgiving!   xoxo

                                                                                                                  Mom   xoxo

 

RESPONSE TO FRIENDS*          

A few days ago someone dear to me ("Loren"*)  posted an NPR article projecting what  “Biden’s first 100 days in office” would include, accompanied by his opinion of the article: 

            “NOT!”

Here are comments that followed:  I did not correct spelling, punctuation, or grammar. I highlighted my responses in blue. 

*Pseudonyms used  to protect privacy, except my own. 

Terri

Him to be declared incompetent so The witches can take over

George
Jibberish

Gloria
Communists taking over thats what

Carolyn
i don’t think he will see 100 days i think his little side kick there will see to that

Terri
Shirley I agree

Terri

That is will have him declared incompetent

Sue Long
Praying for his success. Praying for him to have wisdom to help heal a divided country. If he does well, we all benefit.

Loren
Sue Long What is an example of Biden healing anything?

Ted
Loren    Biden seems to make himself rich from his past dealings while being a public servant. His corruption will be swept under the rug if he actually takes office. God help us if we end up with Harris as president and that is not a stretch at all.

Loren
Ted Thank you for your insight

Sue Long
Loren For a starter, his rhetoric is respectful and inclusive. He makes it clear he wants to be your president, too. How can you help?

Karl
with lady macbeth as VP biden's fist task should be to assign some eunuch like bernie sanders as his food taster.

Julie
I’m terrified of him. If he implements some of the things he says he will our trucking business and our farm is all but gone. Fuel shortages, carbon footprint, three times the price for fuel? We lost money during Obama. Trump lifted us up and everyone we know that has businesses. We are hiring and paying great wages... our drivers make $6-7000 a month if they want to run hard . Our 30 yr old son was able to buy his own semi. But he can’t survive lockdowns or high fuel costs. He will be done. He too unestablished. Biden is threatening to raise inheritance tax and do away with the step up plan that will cause our kids to sell the farm and the trucks to pay the taxes. But. That is if we still have them ... we’ve worked 80 hours a weeks at times running our businesses and have done well overall
But they could be gone in a matter of about 3 executive orders in the first 100 days. I don’t understand why folks want socialism and everything run by the government. I’ve cried everyday in the last week.

So please Sue tell me and relieve my husbands and my huge worry. What will Biden do for us? For us and our kids? Like I said we are terrified.

Nannette

Julie  So very true!


Loren
Julie  I tried to respond and this popped up immediately:

Julie
Loren   lol. Well I rest my case How about that Sue Long

Julie
Sue Long this is what my family will loose if he does away with the step up plan. Makes it a little more personal.

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  Julie
  These are the two trucks we own now. We’ve own trucks since 84. Yes. We’re too old to go broke.
  
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  Julie
  This is our sons truck and trailer. He is a owner operator. A one man company. He cannot survive a bad economy. Like I said it makes it very personal. But unless you’re in our shoes you don’t care. We have family members that are liberal. They actually told us tough luck. But they aren’t involved with any of it. Not immediate. That is a divide I’d love to see Biden heal. Lol. I’m off my pulpit now because it does no good. They already threw down the gauntlet.  

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• Loren
• I am SOOO PROUD OF YOU!
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• Loren
• The nonsense is intense.
• Go to the site I suggested earlier. Getting cancelled  at this point is affirming 

• Julie
  My comment is still showing to me. You can’t see it?
  
  Julie
  Loren
  Yes. Thank you
  
  Julie
  Loren  and I see I got no response from those that love Biden because they can’t defend him when it comes to this. They know he’s threatened to do it. AOC Schumer Pelosi Harris. Gates, Bezo b All make millions and are in bed with China.... yet they let them riot in our cities. No one has ever explained that to me. They just live in denial. Jesus threw them out of the temple. Jesus said to stick up for yourself and trust him. I’m trusting him now. I just don’t trust Biden’s handlers he’s a yes man to the above mentioned.
  
  Loren
  Julie
  Seems pretty obvious. Hating on Trump is the Biden-lovers passtime.
  They DO NOT CARE that biden is not an honorable person.
  
  Sandy
  Julie i do not believe that Bidden will be pres. A lot happening that the media is not telling us. Fraud is being discovered.
  
  Julie
  Sandy. Yup. But to refuse to defend and explain his policies when put up to it is their platform they can’t . We need to protect and stand strong ourselves for upcoming elections too.
  
  Karl
  deep state puppet joe biden's economic plans spell disaster for small businesses. 
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• Julie you are so right.
  resist the fraudulent and phony biden.
  
  

MY RESPONSE:

I consider carefully what I post and how I respond. This has taken a little longer. When Loren's* post showed up on my feed, I attempted to respectfully reply from my perspective, knowing it would not align with most comments of those who follow his posts. I don’t generally respond to this type of post because I value my relationship with Loren. I don’t stubbornly need to be “right.” I probably should have left it alone, but since I started, I don’t want to disengage. You deserve my response. I truly try to have an open mind and open heart. It is in that spirit that I now respond.  Loren, I hope you know that I love you dearly.

Julie, your trucks are beautiful! Your homeland is gorgeous. I’m glad you've done so well. I want you to keep doing well. You’ve worked hard, and can be proud of yourself. Kudos! I don’t know all that it’s taken for you to succeed in the impressive way you have. Certainly a vision and a plan—and immense work. I’ve not walked in your shoes, but I do care. I’m glad you’ve had the opportunity to pursue your dreams and enjoy their fulfillment—an opportunity not afforded to all.

We also own our own business, and we know first-hand that these times are difficult. There hasn’t been a time that hasn’t been hard work. We, too, work extremely long hours. I understand, and yes, it's scary. I’m deeply humbled by those who have supported and encouraged us along the way. We couldn’t have done it alone. I’m sorry you're having such a difficult time. I wish the best for you and your son.

We have children, too, who know what struggle means. That doesn't pre-empt praying for Biden and wishing him success in helping unite a divided country. I know there's no heaven on earth, and that we will struggle no matter how much or how little we have.

Though I dream for material success for our children, I care more that they are kind, compassionate, honest sons and daughters who humbly and gratefully value truth, freedom, a healthy world, and the unity that love brings. I also want their children to enjoy the fruits of their labors.

Perhaps the greatest struggle for all of us during these times is how can we unite—even when we disagree? How can we be people who truly care about each other? Please forgive me when I’ve failed. I want what I say and what I do to come from a heart of understanding and compassion. This includes hearing your voice, and trying to understand your fears—and doing what I can to help. I’m not sure what that looks like sometimes, but I want to.

 

I hear big assumptions about what people like me supposedly know, and how people who support Biden "can't defend him." With respect, this wasn’t about defending anyone. It began with a NPR article about Biden’s first 100 days in office. 

I resonate with what he hopes to accomplish. The writer of the article first  references what he anticipates as being Biden’s  COVID-19 response: “Assemble a coronavirus task force during his presidential transition.”  I believe that’s a responsible action. 245,361+ reasons and counting.

I also expect Biden will make mistakes, like every USA president who's ever served. I doubt I’ll agree with everything he does.  But I want him to do well, just like I wanted Trump to do well. In my opinion, that’s all the more reason to pray for him.  Don’t you think helping heal a divided country is a worthy goal? My question for Loren was “How can you help?” I received no response.

You reference (without source) several names who you claim have gained their wealth through their connections with China. Whether true or not, what does that have to do with Biden’s first 100 days in office?

President Trump certainly has made his millions, often at the hand of hardworking people who went bankrupt after he didn't pay them. Well-documented cases. (Seems like Ivanka and the Trump family have also made millions from their connections with China). But that’s not what Biden’s first 100 days in office is about. And I don't want to argue.

Loren, you reference “Biden-lovers” in a way that exhibits disdain, disgust, and contempt.  You falsely claim “hating on Trump [is] being the Biden-lovers passtime (sic).” I see accusations that people such as myself are “Trump-haters.” Wrong. This hurts. I wish that we all be “people-lovers,” including loving both Biden and Trump. 

The Good Book also says something about loving our enemies. That doesn’t mean I have to love Trump’s  behavior and the division he has brought to this country. It doesn’t mean you have to embrace Biden’s policies. In my mind, a mandate to love means to speak respectfully of others as humans. That includes Democrats, Liberals, Biden, Harris, and any other ilk. It means attempting to understand my own fears and the fears and dismay of those who see it differently, and to alleviate suffering. I’m trying. 

I’ve heard Trump’s  “us vs. them” rhetoric, his well-documented lies, and seen his divisive actions—even to this day. This is not fake news. Behaviors have consequences. Biden’s do as well. Both will be held accountable. 

I often see responses to posts such as I am responding to that claim “they” (“DemoRats”, “Liberals”, "Libtards", the “radical Left”, etc) have subverted all that President Trump has attempted to do, that Trump has been prisoner to an evil, behind-the scenes secret cabal that orchestrated his demise and fooled millions of the rest of us. These are often accompanied with name calling and accusations about Biden being demented, a pedophile, and other egregious claims. In my opinion, this is fear-driven language and conspiracy thinking coming straight from Trump’s playbook. I think we as the American people are better than this. Truth matters. Where you get it matters. Who you believe matters. You get to choose. So do I. I’ll respect your right to do so, and I will challenge your perception of “truth” when I believe it needs to be challenged. 

You’re right—Jesus threw the moneychangers out of the temple (with tears in his eyes)—the religious elite who misused His name for their own profit. I don’t see Biden doing anything of the sort —especially in the name of religion. I do see many of Trump’s follower’s embrace religion as their mantra, for their own benefit, while displaying contempt for the vulnerable living among us—or who ARE “us.”  With respect, I don't think your analogy holds. 

Interestingly, I don’t see where Jesus said to “stick up for yourself," though He said much about truth, justice, and mercy. That’s for a different discussion. 

The Greatest Commandments say to love God and each other. That’s what I want to do, though I often fail. For that, I’m sorry. 

You’re right—let’s trust Him. Yes. And pray for each other. I wish you well. Signing off. Love to all...

 Election Eve, 2020.  Letter to a loved one.

I've known you most of my life.  I love you dearly, and long for conversations about what's most important--living the way of love.

I've read many of your posts and chosen not to respond because I value our relationship more than I value trying to prove I'm "right." I long for a relationship that allows freedom for respectful dialogue as well as diversity of thought and action.

I, too, love this country, our Constitution, the rule of law, and our people--all. I value truth, peace, and freedom. I attempt to read wisely and research carefully. I want to listen to and learn from a plethora of voices. I try to watch behaviors, evaluate consequences, think critically, and yes, I have voted.

I've come to far different conclusions than you have based on many variables, including what I've heard straight from the president's own mouth, his unedited, "straight talk". 

I've read his tweets, full of ridicule and name-calling. His actions have  often shouted even louder than his words. 

 I don't want to hate him, and I pray God will purge me of any hate I may not recognize. You often reference how the Democrats are filled with hate, as if you know the heart. You don't. 

 I feel immense pity for the man and wonder how he became the person he is. How he speaks about others and  how he treats people he pledged to serve--including Democrats--brings me to far different conclusions than you've arrived at. 

This is not "fake news". 

 For me, it's been impossible not to see.  I cannot in good conscience plug my ears and excuse his offensive rhetoric. It tangibly hurts people and inspires others to shout the same rhetoric, perpetuating cycles of division. 

I cannot close my eyes and dismiss bullying that wounds the soul of our children--and our country. 

I cannot dismiss a multitude of documented lies that at best diminishes but more often invalidates any utterance of a truth. 

It sounds from one of your recent copy and paste posts on Facebook that the conspiracies you espouse define how you see people such as me and my husband and  others who love you. 

We are not your enemy.

 The tone of posts such as yours insinuates blame, accusation, ridicule, and contempt. How does this help? Of course you're entitled to your opinions and can post what you choose. 

And yes, sources matter. 

You get to vote, as do millions of Americans. To judge others such as myself as stupid, foolish, or deluded seems counterproductive to a "united" country (descriptors you've used in recent posts). 

Whatever tomorrow brings, I pray for us to recognize the reality that many will be scared, angry, terrified, and saddened, while many others will correspondingly be elated, jubilant, relieved, ecstatic, and triumphant in "victory."

Today we don't know which group either of us will be in. Whatever the case, instead of gloating in victory or despairing in loss, my hope and prayer is that each of us humbly help heal the wounds that divide. 

You may think of us as as exceptions within a massive group of liberals. You may think of us as an isolated minority.  We're not. There are multitudes of kind, caring, thoughtful, and even Christian citizens of this country who share these convictions. 

We've been on the receiving end of your love many a time, and I know you care. You've known us as your trustworthy and truthful fans. 

I beg you to open  your mind and your heart to others who perceive a different world than what you see.

 May we be liberal in our love for all. 

We are not your enemy. 

We are your family, your friends, your loved ones